What You Didn’t Know About Sex – with Susan Bratton

Let’s talk about sex, baby. 

Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages, and across the gender spectrum transforms sex into a passion.

In this podcast, Let’s talk about Sex, we cover:

• How to keep your sex life thriving when “new relationship energy” wears off
• The ways gender can be fluid 
• How libido, desire, and arousal intersect and affect our hormones
• How to get on the upward pleasure spiral 
• The cure for the monotony of monogamy 

People will have a happy marriage and a happy sex life because of new relationship energy.

This energy comes when people first get together and fall in love. This energy will last from four months to four years. When the hormones wear off, then you need to have skills. There are a few things at play:

• People are taught about sex in a fear-based way.
• There is religious repression.
• A lack of modeling in the home.
• The crap that you see on TV.
• The negative information that people get from porn. 

Once new relationship energy wears off, people will pull apart. Why? Well, people do not talk about their sex lives. Especially men being the least articulate sex. Also, men think they know more than they do because of the immense amount of testosterone in their brains. 

We talk about the fluidity of gender. There are two words that Susan likes in this particular conversation: pansexual and the other is sapiosexual. Pansexual is when someone doesn’t care what the gender is, whatever turns them on is what turns them on. Sapiosexual is getting turned on by intelligence – it doesn’t matter what your body or gender association is. In middle school today, so many kids are nonbinary. Gender expression is a fluid experience. People enjoy expressing what is right at the moment. 

Then, Susan explains what happens to our sex drives after forty.

First, there are three crucial terms that you need to know: libido, desire, and arousal. These three things intersect like a Venn diagram. Your sex drive is not solely a hormonal issue.

Libido:

• What’s your toxin load?
• What’s your gut microbiome?
• Are you pooping?
• Are you hydrated? 
• If your health is depressed, your libido is depressed.
• Your horniness is directly related to your level of health.

Desire:

• Are you giving yourself time in your calendar to plan romantic activities?
• Who are you as a sexual person?
• Schedule your sex, so you have fun.

Arousal: 

• This is where most women struggle.
• They struggle with getting enough stimulation and enough slow foreplay. 
• If a woman is just a masturbatory sock for their partner, then that is the worst type of sex that you can have. 
• Women do not give themselves enough time to get fully engorged.  

Most men will go without their pleasure to give women pleasure. Ninety percent of men fall under this category. However, men see the wrong imagery from Hollywood and pornography. When you first get with a man, they will get romantic with you. When women stop having sex with their male counterparts, that means they are no longer experiencing pleasure. 

Stay tuned as Susan reveals the cure for monogamy monotony, talking to our teenagers about sex, and common supplements for sexual health.

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